Question of the Day

Yesterday I posted a question on all my socials. "How do you define success in your life?" I hope many of you answered on the socials. I am interested to know your answer to this question. For me it is pretty simple. I am successful if all my bills are paid without help in anyway, with a little extra for occasional McDonald's trips, my kids have everything they need without help in anyway, which is much different than what they want, my kids are healthy, and I am happy. You notice I did not say for my kids to be happy. Listen, I would love for them to be happy, but if you have kids or are around kids, you know there is no way to make sure they are always happy because often what makes them happy is not safe or healthy for them. I had to learn a long time ago that it is ok for my kids to be unhappy as long as they are safe and healthy because that is my job as a parent. To make sure they are safe, healthy, and have what they need. Not to be their friend or try to keep them happy. Really, they should be more concerned about keeping me happy. Happy moms don't yell or hand out consequences. So yes for me success does involve money. So does happiness in a way. I need enough money to be able to have all of my bills paid, groceries bought, the kids have what they need, and then a little extra for splurges without needing help from another person, family, the government, charities, or anything else, and healthy kids to make me happy. All of that tied up in a nice big pretty bow equals success to me.

I know you are thinking, that is not success, that is just life. To a point you are right, but not everyone has the things I listed above. I still occasionally do not have all those things. It also indicates just how simple it is to keep me happy. I am pretty low maintenance. I used to not be....before I had kids. What I needed in life changed drastically after becoming a mom. If I was never a mom, I would think I needed designer shoes, purses, nails done, someone else to clean my house, a sports car, a pool with pool boy, a big house, lots of clothes, and other things I thought used to be important and what I needed. Would I still like to have those things, yes, but they are no longer what I feel that I need to be happy which equals success for me. Maybe I should add the housekeeper back to the list. I feel that I really do NEED one of those.

As always, play well with others, no running with scissors, make good choices, and have a great day! I love you!